My favorite "description" of love is from the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin:
"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
- Captain Corelli's Mandolin. "Love is the beauty of the soul." --St. Augustine
I was resting at home one day, when a friend of mine came around. She said she had a problem and when I asked what it was, she said and I quote "a guy has been asking me out for some days now and I don't know how to tell him no". After listening to the whole story, I resolved that it was a problem of fear. I saw she liked the guy but as a platonic friend so she did not want to offend him yet she couldn't just date him. I'm sure you want to know what I told her? Yes, you're curious.
Ok, let me start. You might find this stupid, but you have to agreed with me that NO is the easiest word to say in a relationship not to talk of someone you are not dating yet. If a guy woos you, and after your normal "test run" time, you don't find him worthy of your love or perhaps he is but there is a wall between you two stopping you from dating him, why can't you simply say no.
I wonder why a lady would force herself into relationship not because she likes the guy but because she does not want to offend him. A man without enemies is a man without principles and that means you don't have anything you stand for. Another saying goes thus that a man that does not have anything to stand for, will fall for everything.
Don't just tell a guy NO, also tell him why you are saying NO. If you can be friends with him, let him know you both can't be more than friends. But if he doesn't retire, tell him he will expire. That simply means if he can't come to terms with what your decision, he should take a walk. A man that cannot respect your feelings before dating you won't respect your feelings when he starts dating you.
The truth is that NO does not really mean a NO. Lets look at it from this perspective, a NO to a bad guy means a YES to a good guy, a NO to premarital sex means a YES to keeping yourself for your future husband and so on and so forth.
Do you now understand the point I've been trying to drive home all this while. Always say NO when you have to say it and likewise say YES when you need to say it. But, always think twice before making any decision.
I guess this is the most i can say on this topic for now because of space.
For any help, don't hesitate to call me on 08028939470.
With God, all things are possible
Ok, let me start. You might find this stupid, but you have to agreed with me that NO is the easiest word to say in a relationship not to talk of someone you are not dating yet. If a guy woos you, and after your normal "test run" time, you don't find him worthy of your love or perhaps he is but there is a wall between you two stopping you from dating him, why can't you simply say no.
I wonder why a lady would force herself into relationship not because she likes the guy but because she does not want to offend him. A man without enemies is a man without principles and that means you don't have anything you stand for. Another saying goes thus that a man that does not have anything to stand for, will fall for everything.
Don't just tell a guy NO, also tell him why you are saying NO. If you can be friends with him, let him know you both can't be more than friends. But if he doesn't retire, tell him he will expire. That simply means if he can't come to terms with what your decision, he should take a walk. A man that cannot respect your feelings before dating you won't respect your feelings when he starts dating you.
The truth is that NO does not really mean a NO. Lets look at it from this perspective, a NO to a bad guy means a YES to a good guy, a NO to premarital sex means a YES to keeping yourself for your future husband and so on and so forth.
Do you now understand the point I've been trying to drive home all this while. Always say NO when you have to say it and likewise say YES when you need to say it. But, always think twice before making any decision.
I guess this is the most i can say on this topic for now because of space.
For any help, don't hesitate to call me on 08028939470.
With God, all things are possible
LOVE
If you have visited www.myplanetpossibility.blogspot.com, then you might have had a little knowledge of the word LOVE. I capitalise it because it is the basis of the creation of this blog. It is so powerful that it can make or mar a person.
However, I think I should explain in details what it really means before treating issues that revolve around it.
LOVE
Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure ("I loved that meal") to intense interpersonal attraction ("I love my girlfriend"). This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.
As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.
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